The first step is to get clear on immediate arrangements and protect your position early, especially if children, housing, or finances are involved. A practical approach is:

1. Children: establish a safe, workable interim routine (and avoid conflict in front of children).
2. Safety: if there are risks, get urgent advice about protection and safe communication.
3. Documents: start collecting key information early (bank statements, payslips, mortgage info, super, debts, messages about parenting).
4. Communication: keep messages polite and short; avoid threats or emotional escalation.
5. Legal advice: get a roadmap — what matters now, what can wait, and what steps are likely next (negotiation, mediation, court if needed).

A short consult can save time and stress because you’ll know what to do next and what not to

Not always. Many parenting and property matters are resolved without a final court hearing through:

• negotiation between lawyers
• mediation / family dispute resolution
• formalising agreement via consent orders (where appropriate)

Court is more likely if:

• there are urgent issues (safety, relocation, recovery of a child)
• the other party won’t engage or disclosure is incomplete
• there’s a high-conflict dispute that can’t be resolved by agreement
• interim orders are needed quickly

Even if court becomes necessary, most cases still resolve before a final hearing — but good preparation early improves your position and can reduce costs.

For parenting matters

• a short timeline of key events (separation date, current arrangements, any incidents)
• any existing parenting plans, court orders, or written agreements
• key messages/emails (especially about handovers, routines, schooling, or safety)
• details of the child/ren’s routine: school, care days, medical needs, activities

For property/financial matters

• mortgage statements, bank statements (recent), credit card and loan details
• payslips / tax returns (if available)
• superannuation balances
• a list of assets and debts (property, cars, business interests, investments)
• any documents about business/trust structures (if relevant)

General

• your key questions and what outcome you want
• any upcoming deadlines or court dates
• notes about what’s most urgent (housing, finances, children’s arrangements)

Tip: If you’re short on time, bring a one-page summary:

• who, what, when (timeline)
• what you want
• what you’re worried about
  That alone helps us give you clear advice quickly.